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To make a long story longer...
I started going though a very difficult time in my life. My job situation wasn't the best and I was just personally wrestling with my own demons. Guess who came to the rescue? My beautiful "Natural Hair Wearing" wife. It was almost as if once she cut her hair, a light bulb went off in her. She had a new glow about herself and I felt like I was married to a new woman. I mean she still ran up the credit cards but she had a new contentment about her. She was keeping me afloat with positive thoughts and encouragement. Our roles had changed. Right before my eyes I saw a woman become "her own woman." She had so much more confidence. She even had a swagger. She was taking so much control over every area of her and our lives. I was starting to get nervous.
I tried to blame all this new found confidence on something I had said in the past. I thought she may have seen an Oprah show that changed her life. The reality was; my wife became an even more beautiful woman when she went natural. She became something that has truly deepened our marriage and relationship. I guess the scriptures are right about a woman's hair. This truly blew me away.
Ladies... if you man is struggling with this, don't kill him please. I don't think it's totally about the hair, it's more about change. Change can be difficult for many men and we need time to process it. Be careful with trying to talk your way through this with him. That is your natural tendency as a woman- to talk it through. He needs quiet to deal with this. Allow him to have that time to come to terms with this new transition. Men can be moved with email or even a hand written letter. Send him a letter in the mail, (Western Union- FEDEX); this will show how important this change is for you. In the letter, explain to him how you need him to support you in this and it may go further in him supporting you than you actually telling him. Remember also, change takes time, but don't allow it to take too much time. If he can't warm up in a month or so, it may be something deeper going on and he is using this as an easy cop out.
Fellas [sic]... I have been there. I know what you are going through. Take a deep breath in and exhale. I am not one of them [sic] overly sensitive fellas who spends his time writing little notes to other men but so many women have asked me to post something in this regard, so here I am.
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