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6. Look for win-win solutions. Don't settle for a compromise "lose-lose" solution. In an atmosphere of love and trust, couples can come up with creative solutions that are satisfying to both partners.
7. Plan. Once you've come up with an idea, plan out the details carefully so that it is clearly understood. You may even want to write out the details, including what to do if the unforeseen prevents you from following through. For example, maybe your solution is to spend every Saturday afternoon going for a quiet walk together. What will you do if an emergency comes up? Will you skip the walk until the following week or re-schedule it for during the week?
8. Follow-up. Remind one another of your solution and check on a regular basis to see how it is working. If necessary, discuss the situation again and review the results of your first solution. Make adjustments and try again.
Sections from Eight tips for a better marriage
by James Lucoff
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About the Author James Lucoff, San Diego CA USA, http://empathic.homestead.com
Jim Lucoff is director of empathic coaching associates, dedicated to providing quality relationships skills training. He has over 20 years in community service work, with specialties in family education, person-centered co-facilitation and communication skills training. Visit http://empathic.homestead.com. James Lucoff, San Diego CA USA
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